Tips for Bride-to-be with Psoriasis
Wedding season is around the corner. According to Brides.com ceremonies occur the most between the months of June and September. The time between the engagement to holy matrimony is stressful for most brides, but for a bride with psoriasis the process can be even more strenuous. Now divorced, once upon a time I was a bride-to-be. This was supposed to be one of the happiest times of my life but it honestly was very stressful and I dreaded the experience. The hardest part was choosing a dress which covered my skin, wearing a jacket, doing makeup, or using my go-to treatment which cleared me temporarily for short periods of time.
I went dress shopping months before my big day with my grandmother, aunt, and mom. At this time my arms were covered with psoriasis spots and as a result, they were really flaky and inflamed. While at the dress shop I had an anxiety attack (which my family was not aware of). I remember being in the dressing room trying to hold back tears. The dressing room was set up to where you had to come out in the middle of the store to show your party how you looked in the dress. All people in the store could see you. I was embarrassed, ashamed, and feared what others would think of my grotesque spots. Thoughts raided my mind like a swat team and it was quite overwhelming. I can't really put into words how I was truly feeling.
At that time I was prescribed a topical cream which usually cleared me up for 2 weeks before I had to discontinue use. I received the medicine a few months before the wedding and was not planning on using it until 3 weeks before the wedding date. I had the medicine in a regular grocery bag in the living room. One day my fiancé at the time was cleaning up and mistook the bag my medicine was in as a trash bag. Unbeknownst to me at the time he cleaned up, added additional trash to the bag, and took it out to the big dumpster. When I arrived home I went to look for the bag, confused my fiancé advised that he thought it was a trash bag and threw it away. I cried my eyes out, I was so hurt and upset. He felt so bad he went digging in the trash to look for it to no avail. Although it was super expensive we were able to get another batch of cream.
I always like to give the disclaimer, I'm not advising you to hide due to shame, I want you to be as comfortable as you possibly can on your wedding day. Some can show off their disease without a second thought, but for others it's not that easy! This post provides alternative ways to dress with psoriasis.
Check out these wedding options for a bride with psoriasis:
Long Sleeve Dresses
There are a variety of long sleeve dress options you can choose from. You can choose lace or a solid option. Here are a few of my favorite options. These sleeves are thin and light weight and can be worn in the summer.
I wore a sleeveless dress but I had a jacket on standby just in case my medicine decided not to work. There are a variety of different jacket styles to choose from which include faux fur, solid, lace, long, or short. The con depends on the type of jacket, a faux fur for example, can be too hot for a summer wedding. I feel as though jackets aren't a good choice for summer weddings, but are perfect in the spring, fall, and winter. If you don't see a jacket you like, you can always have one custom made. You can also use a shawl as a cover up!
I didn't use makeup for my own wedding, although I did for my friend's wedding as a bridesmaid. You can check out my experience here. For me makeup is my least favorite option, although depending on the circumstances it can be a viable choice. It can be a good cover up for the discoloration and redness psoriasis can cause, but as for the texture (thick and flaky) makeup doesn't change a thing. Makeup can also be messy and hard to apply. If you do decide to go this route I would advise hiring a professional who can do a water resistance airbrush makeup. The other downside is body makeup tends to rub off so you risk getting it on your pretty white dress or other people when you give out hugs.
Any suggestions made are not intended to replace the advice of a qualified medical professional. Please consult your healthcare provider prior to making any changes to your treatment, exercise or diet routine.